How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

Thankfully, the tradition of having groomsmen rent matching tuxedos has waned over recent years, but plenty of couples still honor this tradition, to the chagrin of groomsmen. Rented tuxes almost never fit well, they’re expensive and they add logistical problems, especially if your groomsmen have to travel to the wedding. Instead, ask your groomsmen to wear either a navy blue or grey suit, and buy them all matching ties. The matching ties ensure that your guests recognize who is in your wedding party, and your buds can save a little money. Now, you may ask, “What if a groomsman doesn’t own a blue or grey suit?” Well, you get to tell them that because you saved them money on a tux, they now have money to invest in a new suit, which is really something they should have had at their last three job interviews. Believe me, they’ll thank you for it … a few months later.
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

Ask your friends “Will you be my bridesmaids?” are not only important for girls and men want to ask their friends “Will you be my groomsmen?” too. Therefore we suggest some funny and preferred groomsmen proposal ideas. They include shot glass, bottles of your favorite drinks, cigars, socks, proposal cards etc and how to present it gorgeous. Get inspired with our ways to propose to your groomsmen.
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

I’m getting married in July and one of my best freinds is getting married in September of this year. I say “one of” because I have two best freinds. In fact there are three of us that are best freinds with each other, the third isn’t getting married any time soon. I decided to make the one getting married my best man and the other a groomsman. However i found out i’m not even a groomsman for my best man (he has about 4 or brothers who are all groomsmen) yet he makes our other freind thats not gettting married a groomsman. I know his fiance has 8 bridesmaids, and he has 7 groomsmen excluding me. I know its his wedding, but I can’t help to feel shafted when he makes the other friend a groomsmen. I was hopin both of us would be in the wedding party. I’m kind a feelin like just another friend at this point. Any thoughts?
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

You’ve popped the big question, and now it’s time to propose to your best friends. Your wedding party is made up of your closest friends and family members, from your childhood friends to your college buddies. Your group of groomsmen will be your support system through the wedding planning process and during the craziness of the big day. Once you’ve narrowed it down to the select few who will get to stand by your side on the most important day of your life, you’re ready to ask them to in your wedding. Here are 10 creative and fun ways to propose to your groomsmen.
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

You’re probably screwed. There’s no clean exit from this jam. If she absolutely insists that little brother Timmy is a groomsman, your refusal could win the battle (of the wedding) but lose the war (of your in-laws). Plus, the unwritten rule is that you take her brother as a groomsman. It’s a dumb rule. But it exists.You have only one possible card to play. Instead of framing her brother as a negative, frame the other groomsmen as a positive. Go with: “Hey, I would love to have your brother as a groomsman, but Peter, Greg, and Bobby are my three closest friends, and it’s really important to me that I have them by my side, up there at the alter. I’ve dreamt of this day for years.” This isn’t guaranteed to work, as she could suggest expanding the roster to four groomsmen. But it never hurts to try.
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

I have 2 brothers, neither of which I’m really close with, just normal brotherly love. One of them got married last year and had myself and our other brother as “best men”. I’m getting married and my fiancee has 5 sisters and 5 others she wants in the wedding. Yeah, 10 fucking bridesmaids. I managed to scrounge up 10 groomsmen, but problem is, I want to have a friend be my best man but I feel like the brother who had me as best man would feel slighted. At the same time, they only had 2 bridesmaids/groomsmen in their party mostly because they got married too quickly(8 months after meeting)and shes a bitch and doesn’t have that many friends(she didn’t even include our sister). What do you guys think?
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

17 of 20 Can I ask my fiancé not to include one of his friends as a groomsmen? In this case, the decision is not yours to make. Best friends are almost like family. How would you feel if your fiancé didn’t want your best friend as your maid of honor? For the sake of your marriage, try to learn to appreciate his closest pal. This person has probably been a part of your groom’s life for a long time and is likely going to continue to be. If you still want to persuade your groom not to ask him to be in the wedding party, discuss with your fiancé other ways of including his friend, such as asking him to do a reading at the ceremony. Photography: Jennifer Emerling
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How To Ask Groomsmen To Be In Wedding

When it comes to choosing your half of the wedding party, there are going to be some very easy choices to make: your best friend from college, your younger sibling, a childhood pal. But it’s also important to be strategic about your wedding party. After all, your groomsmen (or groomspeople, if you decide to have female friends stand by your side) are there to assist you on the big day, with emotional support as well as logistical help so that things run smoothly. Do you have a friend who is a natural, take-charge leader or one who enjoys problem solving? This kind of groomsman is essential. Remember, no matter how carefully you plan your wedding, something unexpected will come up. This friend will take the duties seriously, and you can count on him (or her) to take on a task and get it done.
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If you already know that your groomsmen will need to wear something special for your big day, such as a bowtie or a special printed tie, include it when you ask your friends to be in your wedding! This will alleviate some of the pressure and costs of being a groomsman. Pair your item with their favorite bottle of liquor to make the gesture even more exciting.
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In a wedding ceremony, the best man is the guy who—just kidding. You get it. This stuff isn’t neurosurgery. Inevitably, however, you’ll have some tricky questions about who to pick, how to “break ties” of friendship, and how to avoid bruised egos. You’re bound to wonder, “Yeah, but my situation is different. What if….” We get it. Picking your groomsmen can be difficult. You have questions. We have answers. And if you have something that’s not listed? Just Ask The Expert and we’ll get back to you, promise.
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In traditional wedding day attire, men hardly have any room to add a bit of their own personality. Cufflinks are the one accessory where men can add a fun twist on the standard suit and tie. When asking your groomsmen to be a part of your wedding, why not provide them with great cufflinks they can wear both on the day and afterwards?
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7 of 20 Do the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen have to match? Absolutely not. Choose to have people standing up with you whose presence is meaningful and important. Ask a groomsman to link arms with two bridesmaids, task a couple of guys with escorting elderly guests, or arrange a single-file procession. Just appoint a traffic cop to make sure everyone knows when, where, and with whom they’re supposed to enter. Photography: Jessica Antola
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Do you have one or not? Damn. Make up your mind. Okay, the first thing to remember is that “best man” is an honorary title. It doesn’t necessarily mean squat. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where the best man was a brother—in many cases a distant, estranged brother—and the groom leaned on his friends for everything else. It’s sort of like how in the first few seasons of The Sopranos, Uncle Junior was officially the head of the family (to throw off the feds) even though the real power rested with Tony.SEE ALSO: Groomsmen GiftsAlternatively, you can use him as a groomsman and tap your best friend as best man. But unless you truly hate his guts and want to send a message of spite… never banish him from the wedding party altogether.
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18 of 20 How can I make sure the groomsmen don’t get too rowdy? The first person to bring these fears to is your groom. Handle the conversation carefully, because these are his closest buddies. Be prepared with facts, and avoid slamming their character (“he gets drunk all the time”). Once you’ve persuaded your groom that it’s wise to head off potential trouble, he should be the one to take these concerns to his friends as his issue (and not as yours). If alcohol is a likely factor in their behavior, you may want to arrange for the beer or wine to be slow to arrive at their table, and their nonalcoholic choices to be abundant. Your bartender or caterer may have other logistical solutions for you. Photography: Katie Stoops Get More Tips for Taming a Booze Hound at Your Wedding

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